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Deepen Your Relationships

Healthy relationships take time, patience and a concerted effort, in order to develop properly.  Some relationships may feel seamless, while others may not.  Have you ever felt like giving up on important relationships, simply because you felt “stuck”?  I must say, I have fallen into this “stuck” feeling plenty of times.  Often, though, the lack of hope that many of us feel in our relationships can be attributed to lack of creativity in the relationship.  There have been relationships in my past, which have been damaged by misunderstanding, lack of communication and an inability to be creative.  I now hold myself responsible for overlooking the importance of nurturing some of my most valuable relationships.  During the times when I was supposed to consider the ways in which the other party needed to be loved, I chose to assume that the love I was giving was enough; unfortunately, such a narrow way of thinking caused valuable relationships to whither away.  Still, valuable lessons come from our most challenging experiences.  Here are five important relationships, which we can all take the time to nurture a little bit more:

Self
-Care for yourself, DAILY!  Whatever energizes you, makes you feel excited about life or helps you to connect with others, focus on doing more of that.  Self-care is the most valuable care we can give to anyone.  Developing a deeper bond with ourselves can be challenging for many. Start small and try not to overwhelm yourself.  Taking as little as ten minutes a day to breathe deeply can greatly benefit us all.  As soon as the weather permits, use nature’s greatness to tap into your self-care.  A daily walk can help you discover new ways to reenergize and focus on your personal care.

Spouse
-Our spouses need to know how much we still love and care for them. Without the verbal and physical expression of our love, sometimes, our spouses can feel left in the cold. Leaving a random love note for your spouse can keep the romance alive in a relationship. A love note is a short, simple and easy way to remind a loved one of how much you care for them. Grab a post-it note and tell your spouse you can’t wait to see them this evening. Remind them of how sexy they are. Whatever message you choose, this unexpected gesture of love can change the outcome of your spouse’s day.

Children
-Our children are born to feel connected to their parents. When this connection is broken, challenges in the parent/child relationship can occur. Scheduling ten to fifteen minutes of daily bonding time with your child can drastically improve this relationship. Play your favorite songs in the morning to get the positive energy flowing with your child. Parents can even schedule a few minutes of horseplay with their child, each morning or night. Children, no matter their age, love to see their parents act silly. Join in the fun and think of ways to bring the joy back in your relationship with your child(ren). For older children, what if you took the time, each day, to listen to your child’s thoughts without offering an opinion? Creating a happy and trusting environment for children deepens their connection to their parents.

-Parents
When was the last time you sent a hand written note to your parents, telling them how much they mean to you?  Mothers, especially, are soft and pink and enjoy the thoughtful things in life.  An unexpected love letter from his/her child will make any parent’s heart melt.  If letters aren’t your thing, can you plan a date night for you and your parent(s)? What if you had a blast from the past night?  Our parents have so many wonderful stories to tell us.  Allowing them to reminisce on past, enjoyable experiences not only keeps their spirits up, but telling stories with our elders helps to keep their minds sharp.

-Friends
-When was the last time you actually picked up the phone and called your close friends? Many of us having forgotten to use our phones for their most basic function.  Develop a habit of making your relationship with your friends feel thoughtful and cared about.  Even if you can’t call a friend as often as you would like, can you remember an important date or event, which would require you to call and congratulate them?  Whatever you choose, think of thoughtful and creative ways to make your friends feel appreciated.

-WorkPlace Relationships
Many of us spend precious moments at work, which takes away from our time with loved ones.  While there, why not make the best of our work experience?  Professional relationships do not have to feel daunting or forced.  Sometimes, a simple acknowledgement of our coworker’s efforts can go far.  When was the last time you thanked your coworker for contributing to a group project?  Can you leave a thank you note in their mailbox for carrying your load while you took leave?  Whatever the gesture, reminding our coworkers of their value in the company makes our work experience just a little bit more tolerable.

Maintaining a healthy connection with our spouse, our parents, our children and our careers can challenge us, from time to time.  Remembering that our connection to others gives great meaning to our lives can help keep us all on track.  Building connections with important people in our lives is beneficial and crucial to our long-term happiness.  If rebuilding stronger relationships with your loved ones is part of your self-care journey, give yourself permission to take this important step.  Determine which relationships energize you. Put a plan in place to keep this going.